Forgiveness

Sometime the people we love or care can hurt us unintentionally. It will be very hurtful. As an immediate reaction we tend to get very angry with the person who hurt us. Without our knowledge we will try to recall back all their past mistakes. These will multiply our anger towards that person. We will keep replaying their past mistake over and over until to a point where we will conclude they don’t deserves forgiveness. We won’t give them a chance to explain themselves and correct their mistakes. These wound can leave you with the feeling of anger and even vengeance.
It is really hurtful when you realized you have been betrayed. But keeping this anger deep inside will make things more difficult in our life. Sometime it’s better to forgive. What is forgiveness? In general forgiveness is a decision to let go the anger and the taught of revenge. By giving forgiveness we are letting go our burdens. Whenever we are in state of mind where we can’t forgive the person who hurt us, it’s recommended we take 1 or 2 day off from the current situation. Take a break from the problem. Give yourself a time to heal. During this break, try to view the problem from the other person point of view. Find out why they behave in such way. Maybe this will make the forgiving process easier.
By forgiving someone we are not doing them a favor. But we are helping our self to move on and stay healthy. Research shows by forgiving we are reducing our stress, lower the blood pressure, and reduce chronic pain. The truth is, by not forgiving somebody we are still stick at the same moment we are get hurt. We will keep replaying the incident until we genuinely forgive them. By not forgiving someone who is very close to us, we are loosing somebody who is very important in our life. Maybe the person who hurt you can be your husband, wife, close friends or family members. By not forgiving them, you are indirectly throwing them from your life. Its take years to build a relationship. Sometime it’s just not fair to let it go just because of one incident. By forgiving someone we give a second chance to the relationship. Some tend to think by forgiving we are forgetting what has happened and excusing it. Absolutely not! We can genuinely forgiving someone without excusing their act. At the same time, we can make sure the same kind of problem is not occurring in future. By doing so, we are not only saving a relationship, we also giving a chance for our self to love and to be loved. So let’s forget the past bitterness and genuinely forgive all those who hurts us. Let’s give them a chance to correct their mistake. Let give our self a chance to be happy.

Cheers!