Disappointment

Everyone in the world is hoping for the best.We want to get all that we desire.Everyone is chasing something and want to hold it in their hand.We want….

our love to be replied…..

to get promotion…..

to score good grade in exam…..

to have a wonderful family…..

to win the game…..

to be rich…..

to be appreciated……

If we ask the people around us to list down what they want in life;I'm very sure there will be no full stop for the list.Sometime we tend to set high expectation from the people we love or our own self.It’s just not possible every single things in the world work in our favor.So when thing doesn't work in our favor,we tend to get disappointed.

What is disappointment?

Disappointment is a feeling of dissatisfaction that follow after we fail to meet our own expectation.You will be disappointed if you can’t get the expected result or things doesn’t work as your way.

How disappointment affecting your life and others?

Disappointment often lead to stress and anxiety.When you disappointed,you feel hurt.When your expectation failed to manifest,you will be disappointed.This disappointment tend to destroy your belief and self confidence.This is because,you will immediately start to think you are not that good and starting find you weakness.You will blame yourself for not meeting your expectation or goals.Some even hurt them self if they disappointed.

Disappointment in relationship will affect your trust and integrity.Most of the marriage failed because he/she not able to fulfill their spouse expectation.We enter the marriage world with full of expectation,looking for Mr or Miss Perfect.When our spouse failed to fulfill our expectation,we tend to get hurt and disappointed.This lead to stress in a relationship and eventually ended in breakup.

Normally people tend to do something stupid when disappointed.Mostly people tend to engage in activities to divert their mind from disappointment.But some people tend to go for extreme level to cure their disappointment.This often happened in love.This group of people can become extreme if there don't get the person they love.They willing to kidnap or physically abusing people to show their disappointment.Sometime things can get worst than this.

How to overcome disappointment?

The ‘law of life’ is,things won’t always work in our favor.Sometime we will be disappointed.But we should learn from the disappointment and move forward.We should find a way to cure the disappointment and pursue happiness.

Robert Kiyosaki once said “The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way”.

Here are some ideas I have that might help you to walk through the time of disappointment.I hope you find them useful.

1.Calm down.Stop and calm down.Give yourself some time.Shift your attention from the thing that disappoint you.Things might not seem nearly to bad tomorrow.

2.Talk to your friends or family.If you are unhappy with your friends or family members,talk with them about it.Confront the problem.Use the proper word to explain your disappointment.Sometime it’s just a misunderstanding or misinterpretation.Maybe they won’t aware they has been hurt you or they did it unintentionally.By having a talk with your dearest people you can avoid your disappointment.Definitely they will seek for your forgiveness if they hurt you.What can be a better cure for a disappointed heart than a sincere apology from the one who disappointed us?

3.Expect less & give more.Don’t expect too much from the people you love.We all human and nobody is perfect.So accept people as who there are and give your best to them.The law is “what you give is what you get back”.Once you stop expecting too much from people,there will be no room for disappointment.BUT…BUT…..there is no life without expectation.So we have to learn to set right kind of expectation for our self and others.By setting the right kind of expectation you will find happiness and satisfaction.The real joy of life is giving and not receiving.Give your best to yourself and to others without expecting anything in return.That's the path of eternal happiness.

4.Surrender to god.In life,we may not always get what we want,we may not always get what we need but we get what we deserved because god always give us what is best for us.Learn to give your best in everything you do including your relationship.Leave the result to the god.

5.Learn from the experience.Think what you can learn from the experience.Find a way to do it better next time.Take disappointment as an opportunity to improve yourself.Believe that you can learn something from the disappointment and use it to create a new future.

5.Meditation.Do meditation every day.Meditation will help you to be more calm and focus.Meditation definitely a good medicine during the time of disappointment.It will help you to clear the anxiety and make you feel more relaxed.

6.Move on.You was disappointed.True.But what is the point to keep thinking the same thing over and over again.It’s not going to change anything.Your life is not going to end at the point where you disappointed.Accepting the disappointment with an open heart and moving forward in the life is the best thing you can do to cure your disappointed heart.Life is full of opportunity and happiness.It’s in your hand to grab it or not.

Hope this article can help the reader to handle disappointment in an effective way and help them find happiness in their life.

Cheers !

Inspirational People –Project

The world full with inspirational people.There are people who inspire us to happily,some inspire us to give our best to the world,some inspire us to pursuits our passion,some inspire us to love and some inspire us to chase our dreams.

People who inspire others are the heroes of mankind.So I created “Inspirational People” project to keep myself stay motivated and help all my brother & sister out there.In this project I will name all those people who inspire me and million of people out there.I just started this project,and it will grow together with this blog.I will keep updating the ‘Heroes’ in this project.Hope this people who inspire million of people will inspire you also.I will consider this project is successful if it will able to change someone’s life.If someone get inspired by this list and decided to change their life,then it will the real success of this ‘Inspirational People’ project.

This list will only contain the name of our heroes.I will talk about each of them individually on my forthcoming post.So let start our journey to ‘Inspirational People’.

1.Oprah Winfrey – American television host and media mogul

2.Abraham Lincoln – Sixteenth president of United States

3.Martin Luther King – American activist

4.Swami Vivekananda – Hindu sage & social reformer

5.Mahatma Gandhi – Political and spiritual leader of India

6.Nelson Mandela – Former president of South Africa

7.Mother Theresa - Humanitarian

8.Roger Federer - Professional tennis player

9.Serena Williams – Professional tennis player

10.Donald Trump – Businessman,Socialite,Television personality

11.Warren Buffet – Investor & Businessman

12.Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam – Eleventh president of India

13.Mark Zuckerberg – Facebook founder

14.Larry Page & Sergey Brin –Google founder

15.Bill Gates – Microsoft founder

16.Tiger Woods – American professional golfer

17.Michael Jordan – American professional basketball player

(Wait for next update…….!)

Cheers!

How To Stay Focused & Increase Working Efficiency

Most of us will be facing problem to stay focused at work.Sometime we get irritated with our self when we failed to complete our work or project.I still remember those days where I failed to complete my project and had a tough time to give explanation to my boss.By applying some ‘Magic Formula’ now I'm able to stay focused on my work and complete my projects before the due date.

Normally we tend to get distracted by various reason.Like emails,social media,online games and so on.We tend to spend 2-3 hours on social media’s and email.I called them ‘time stealer’.I used to spend my time on this ‘time stealer’ where I supposed to focus on completing my projects.The result?I not able to complete my task according to the due date and end up getting anxiety,pressure and the list goes on.

The thing about our brain is,it only can focus on a particular period of time our mind is tend to divert if we sit long hours in front of our pc’s.So we have to make sure we use the time we have in a proper way.Here are the few way for us to stay focused and increase workplace efficiency:

1.Set you goals-To stay focused on work we should have clear goals.Once we plan our goals is will be very easy for us to stay focused.We can use goal planning tools life GoalEnforcer to plan our goal,to track our goal and to accomplish the goals.

2.Allocate time to check mails-we can reach our workplace 30 minutes earlier to check our personal mails and promise to our self that we will stay away from personal emails during working period.

3.Stay away from personal calls-Usually I make sure I put my phone in silent mode when I was working.I will not entertain any personal call when I working.I tried this method.Its really working.It help me too stay focused on my work.

4.Allocate time period to people to disturb you-Set a timeframe for yourself to complete like 50% of your work.After you complete this goal,maybe you can spend 5-10 min to catch up with people or other latest updates around you.

5.Listen to some light music-This will keep you relax and stay focused.

6.Use right chair -Use the right chair which suit your body posture.This is to avoid back pains and keep you focus on your work.

7.Listen to right kind of music-Listen to the right music which suite your workplace,keep you motivated,and keep you focus.

8.Breakdown your work and set time frame-Break down your work into smaller category and set dateline to complete it.

9.Create ‘To Do' list and track it.

10.Do meditation-Practice doing meditation to increase your focusing level.

“Winner Focus;Looser Spray”

Hope this info will be helpful to all of you.

Cheers!

Persistence

I came across this quote by The Great Napolean Hill:

"Effort only fully release its rewards after a person refuse to quit"

What a powerful message for all of us who is trying to be successful in life. Sometime success is so close to us when we decided to quit. There is only one different between the successful people and those are not so successful. The successful one never quit. Those who are successful are very persistence.

What is persistence?

Persistence is the ability to keep trying until successful. If we see most of the successful people like Oprah Winfrey, Donald Trump, and Serena Williams; they are very persistence in pursuing their goals. These are the people who realized when the going get tough, the tough get going. Most of us set our goals every New Year. Some of us pursue the goals. But sometime when it’s getting tough to achieve the goal, we will easily give up or just replace the goal with new one. Those who are persistent will keep working on their goals until they reach their destination. I used to think, “I’m very motivated. I will achieve all my goals”. But at the end, most of my goals are still not attainable. Then I realized something. Motivation doest make you rich. Motivation doest complete your goals. But execution does. Keep working on the goals with a motivated mind will help you to achieve your goals. Once I realized this, I started to achieve my goals on by one.

How to be persistence?

Being persistence and achieving goals can be very easy means, most of us will be millionaire by now. The world will be filled by only successful people. It’s take a lot of effort. Here are few things I will normally do to be persistence in achieving my goals:
1. I will write down all my goals in a piece of paper.
2. After wrote down all the goals, I will set dateline to achieve my goals.
3. Then I will use ‘Divide & Conquer’ technique. I will breakdown my goal into small category and start working on it.
4. I will make sure I work on my goals everyday.
5. If there is a point where I’m hitting low point in term of motivation, I will take a short break. I will do something else that can recharge me back to execute my goals. Then I will come back again to execute my goals. Being persistence doest mean you should work without having break or ignoring all your other interest.
6. I make sure I reward my self with something that can excite me after I complete my goals.

Should we always be persist and never quit? Of course not. Sometime giving up will be good option. So before we set our goals, we should analyze properly everything. If our plan is not working, we have to figure it out what is wrong with the plan and rectify it. Then we should continue working on it. Let say your goal is to climb Everest. The height of Everest is 8840m.You at 4400m.Sudenlly you got virus infection. So the best option here is to stop climbing and save yourself. If you keep climbing, eventually you will end up in killing yourself. I know it is tough to balance when to be persistent and when to give up. But when you set your goal and pursuing it, you will know at some point whether the goal is still relevant to you or not. When you very clear with your goals, then don’t give up. Keep pursuing you goals. Be persistent. I’m sure at the end you will be very happy with the result.

Cheers!

Forgiveness

Sometime the people we love or care can hurt us unintentionally. It will be very hurtful. As an immediate reaction we tend to get very angry with the person who hurt us. Without our knowledge we will try to recall back all their past mistakes. These will multiply our anger towards that person. We will keep replaying their past mistake over and over until to a point where we will conclude they don’t deserves forgiveness. We won’t give them a chance to explain themselves and correct their mistakes. These wound can leave you with the feeling of anger and even vengeance.
It is really hurtful when you realized you have been betrayed. But keeping this anger deep inside will make things more difficult in our life. Sometime it’s better to forgive. What is forgiveness? In general forgiveness is a decision to let go the anger and the taught of revenge. By giving forgiveness we are letting go our burdens. Whenever we are in state of mind where we can’t forgive the person who hurt us, it’s recommended we take 1 or 2 day off from the current situation. Take a break from the problem. Give yourself a time to heal. During this break, try to view the problem from the other person point of view. Find out why they behave in such way. Maybe this will make the forgiving process easier.
By forgiving someone we are not doing them a favor. But we are helping our self to move on and stay healthy. Research shows by forgiving we are reducing our stress, lower the blood pressure, and reduce chronic pain. The truth is, by not forgiving somebody we are still stick at the same moment we are get hurt. We will keep replaying the incident until we genuinely forgive them. By not forgiving someone who is very close to us, we are loosing somebody who is very important in our life. Maybe the person who hurt you can be your husband, wife, close friends or family members. By not forgiving them, you are indirectly throwing them from your life. Its take years to build a relationship. Sometime it’s just not fair to let it go just because of one incident. By forgiving someone we give a second chance to the relationship. Some tend to think by forgiving we are forgetting what has happened and excusing it. Absolutely not! We can genuinely forgiving someone without excusing their act. At the same time, we can make sure the same kind of problem is not occurring in future. By doing so, we are not only saving a relationship, we also giving a chance for our self to love and to be loved. So let’s forget the past bitterness and genuinely forgive all those who hurts us. Let’s give them a chance to correct their mistake. Let give our self a chance to be happy.

Cheers!

How To Avoid Being Lonely & Stressful

Do you ever been lonely? Or been stress because of loneliness? Feeling lonely mean reaching a state of mind where we feel our life is empty and meaningless. When we are lonely, we tend to feel that we are not loved by people or there is no one there for us. But the truth is feeling lonely is purely based on our perspective of life.

Feeling lonely for a long period of time can cause some serious damages for our self. Some tend to kill their self because of loneliness. Most of us tend to go for anxiety pills or anti-depression pills as a solution for loneliness. But we all tend to forget none of this pill can be permanent solution for loneliness.

Feeling lonely is a state of mind and its doest have to be in this way. Here are few ways to overcome loneliness:

1.Get a pet-Get a dog/cat to occupy us will help us from being alone. Playing with our pet also will reduce our stress.
2.Take up a new hobby-Take up a new hobby. Do something that you enjoy doing like painting, reading, and playing snooker. Maybe you can try some adventures sport like mountain climbing, jungle tracking, hunting and so on.
3.Keep your mind occupied-By visualizing positive affirmation we can overcome loneliness. Find a activity which can excite you whenever you lonely.
4.Experiment with new things in life-Approaching a daily life in different perspective and doing the daily routine in different way is a good way to overcome loneliness.
5.Listen to music-Listen to your favorite music and recalling your sweet old memories also is a good way to overcome loneliness.
6.Meditation-Meditation keeps us focus and enjoys the nature and freedom of inner soul.
7.Join online community-Join online community like faceebook, friendster, and myspace. Getting introduced with different kind of people from all over the world and sharing your life with this new people will give a new meaning to your lonely life.
8.Call your friends-Call your friends and go out with your friends. Get involved in the activity that you enjoy doing with you friends.
9.Go out for a walk-Always remember. Feeling lonely is a state of mind. You can change it by just getting out of the situation. A simple walk can make you rejuvenated again.

Life is short. So we have to make sure we enjoyed every bit of it. There is no time for loneliness. Let’s make our life more interesting one.

Cheer!

Appreciation

“There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread” - Mother Teresa-

Everybody in this world hunger for appreciation. We all want to be appreciated by our family members, friends, loved ones, boss, and etc.It’s a wonderful motivation when our effort is being appreciated by people. When we give a genuine appreciation to someone we will not only make his/her day but we will help them to bring out the best out of them. A positive energy is created there when someone is being appreciated. So by appreciating someone we are not only helping them to be at their best, we also indirectly helping our self to give our best in everything we do. Learning how to appreciate every single thing that god has offered us is a key to increase fulfillment. Below is the few way of us showing our appreciation:

1. A simple ‘Thank You’ will do wonders in our relationship, career, and life .By saying ‘thank you’ we are telling people their effort is being appreciated. A simple ‘thank you’ from a boss will motivate the employee to give his best in his/her next assignment.
2. Call people using their real name-For everyone their name is the sweetest thing they can hear from someone mouth. By calling someone with their name (with proper pronunciation) you are showing them there are being appreciated and remembered. You are telling them there are VVIP.There are remembered.
2.’I Love You’ notes-Nothing can make our partners or beloved one happier than letting them know how much we appreciate them. Simple ‘I love you’ notes can add ‘extra sugar’ in a relationship.
3. The most IMPORTANT DAY in someone life is their birthday. A simple SMS on their birthday will let them know how much there are being appreciated.
4. Enjoy little things in life-Appreciation not only meaning appreciate people around us. We also can appreciate every little thing around us and came across our life. A little thing today can be a big thing tomorrow.

So, let’s start to appreciate everyone and everything in life and fill this world with love.

Cheers!

How To Stay Focused

I often heard my friends complaining there is no enough time to complete their office task with the increasing ‘MUST FINISH’ list. Some complaining there is so many distractions in office and they are not able to finish the task in times. But by stay focus on our mission we can be more productive. Here are few things that I usually do to stay focus:

1. Plan and visualize your day ahead. Plan your day ahead before you go to bed. Visualize that you are doing the entire task that you supposed to do the next day.

2. Write down your entire task.Start your day by writing down the entire task that you supposed to do in that particular day. Prioritize the task according to the importance.

3. Allocate ‘Relaxing’ time.Allocate in advance a short time period for you to check your email, new, facebook, friendster and etc.Do everything you want in this time. So when you start back your task, you won’t be distracted by this ‘time killers’.

4. Reschedule your tasks when you are really bored.Let say, you are feeling bored when doing task A, you can reschedule the task according to its priority and do some other task in your list which is less boring. By doing this, we will eliminate boredom and stay focuses in accomplishing our tasks.

5. List down all the distraction & eliminate it.Take a white paper and list down the entire thing that distracting you from accomplishing your task. List down everything and eliminate them one by one. I’m sure you will see the increasing productivity.

6. Divide & Conquer-Rome is not built in one day. Divide all you task into small part and take on at a time. After you finish your first task, move to the next one.

7. Maintain a support group.Mingle with the right kind of people who can motivate you and guide you to achieve your goals. Track your goals with them.

8. Task = Goal.Visualize all you task will lead to your goals. Keep inspiring yourself to complete all your task to achieve your goals.

9. Reward yourself.Reward yourself every time you accomplish a bigger task. A small reward can motivate you to stay focus in your goal and make you more determine in accomplishing your task.

Winner Focus; Loser Spray. Hope this article will be helpful to all the readers to stay focused.

Your Life Is Your Work of art

While I was reading a book, I came across this wonderful thought by one of my favorite writers, Shakti Gawain which is very inspiring. Such a powerful thoughts. I believe it can bring a lot of positive changes in people life. Here is the passage:

“Your Life is Your Work of Art”

“I like to think myself as an artist, and my life is my greatest work of art. Every moment is a moment of creation, and each moments of creation contain infinite possibilities. I can do things the way I have always done them, or I can look at all the different alternatives, and try something new and different and potentially more rewarding. Every moment presents a new opportunity and a new decision. What a wonderful game we are playing, and what a magnificent art form”

We can apply this concept in every part of our life. Be it business, relationship, career and every single thing. We are the architect of our life. Most of the time we heard people complaining that life is sucks. But it’s all about our perception of life. How we look at things that happening in our life? I used to do the same mistake that most of us doing. Every single day doing the same things. Same restaurant, same hobby, same group of friends, taking the same road every time and so on. But then, one day I realized I’m limiting my opportunity if I stick with the same things. When I started to take different alternative and try something new, thing getting better and better. Life becomes interesting. I think it’s worth it to take a risk to try new things in life. I’m sure you guys won’t be disappointed.