Happy Deepavali

Today hindu people celebrating Deepavali.Deepavali is major hindu festival.It is ‘Festival of Lights’.

I wish all hindu people a very Happy Deepavali.May the festival of light bring joy and prosperity to all of you.

Cheers!

Disappointment

Everyone in the world is hoping for the best.We want to get all that we desire.Everyone is chasing something and want to hold it in their hand.We want….

our love to be replied…..

to get promotion…..

to score good grade in exam…..

to have a wonderful family…..

to win the game…..

to be rich…..

to be appreciated……

If we ask the people around us to list down what they want in life;I'm very sure there will be no full stop for the list.Sometime we tend to set high expectation from the people we love or our own self.It’s just not possible every single things in the world work in our favor.So when thing doesn't work in our favor,we tend to get disappointed.

What is disappointment?

Disappointment is a feeling of dissatisfaction that follow after we fail to meet our own expectation.You will be disappointed if you can’t get the expected result or things doesn’t work as your way.

How disappointment affecting your life and others?

Disappointment often lead to stress and anxiety.When you disappointed,you feel hurt.When your expectation failed to manifest,you will be disappointed.This disappointment tend to destroy your belief and self confidence.This is because,you will immediately start to think you are not that good and starting find you weakness.You will blame yourself for not meeting your expectation or goals.Some even hurt them self if they disappointed.

Disappointment in relationship will affect your trust and integrity.Most of the marriage failed because he/she not able to fulfill their spouse expectation.We enter the marriage world with full of expectation,looking for Mr or Miss Perfect.When our spouse failed to fulfill our expectation,we tend to get hurt and disappointed.This lead to stress in a relationship and eventually ended in breakup.

Normally people tend to do something stupid when disappointed.Mostly people tend to engage in activities to divert their mind from disappointment.But some people tend to go for extreme level to cure their disappointment.This often happened in love.This group of people can become extreme if there don't get the person they love.They willing to kidnap or physically abusing people to show their disappointment.Sometime things can get worst than this.

How to overcome disappointment?

The ‘law of life’ is,things won’t always work in our favor.Sometime we will be disappointed.But we should learn from the disappointment and move forward.We should find a way to cure the disappointment and pursue happiness.

Robert Kiyosaki once said “The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way”.

Here are some ideas I have that might help you to walk through the time of disappointment.I hope you find them useful.

1.Calm down.Stop and calm down.Give yourself some time.Shift your attention from the thing that disappoint you.Things might not seem nearly to bad tomorrow.

2.Talk to your friends or family.If you are unhappy with your friends or family members,talk with them about it.Confront the problem.Use the proper word to explain your disappointment.Sometime it’s just a misunderstanding or misinterpretation.Maybe they won’t aware they has been hurt you or they did it unintentionally.By having a talk with your dearest people you can avoid your disappointment.Definitely they will seek for your forgiveness if they hurt you.What can be a better cure for a disappointed heart than a sincere apology from the one who disappointed us?

3.Expect less & give more.Don’t expect too much from the people you love.We all human and nobody is perfect.So accept people as who there are and give your best to them.The law is “what you give is what you get back”.Once you stop expecting too much from people,there will be no room for disappointment.BUT…BUT…..there is no life without expectation.So we have to learn to set right kind of expectation for our self and others.By setting the right kind of expectation you will find happiness and satisfaction.The real joy of life is giving and not receiving.Give your best to yourself and to others without expecting anything in return.That's the path of eternal happiness.

4.Surrender to god.In life,we may not always get what we want,we may not always get what we need but we get what we deserved because god always give us what is best for us.Learn to give your best in everything you do including your relationship.Leave the result to the god.

5.Learn from the experience.Think what you can learn from the experience.Find a way to do it better next time.Take disappointment as an opportunity to improve yourself.Believe that you can learn something from the disappointment and use it to create a new future.

5.Meditation.Do meditation every day.Meditation will help you to be more calm and focus.Meditation definitely a good medicine during the time of disappointment.It will help you to clear the anxiety and make you feel more relaxed.

6.Move on.You was disappointed.True.But what is the point to keep thinking the same thing over and over again.It’s not going to change anything.Your life is not going to end at the point where you disappointed.Accepting the disappointment with an open heart and moving forward in the life is the best thing you can do to cure your disappointed heart.Life is full of opportunity and happiness.It’s in your hand to grab it or not.

Hope this article can help the reader to handle disappointment in an effective way and help them find happiness in their life.

Cheers !

Motivation Quotes

Today's Quotes:

"Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it’s only for wallowing in"  -Katherine Mansfield-

MyThingking :

Every single day,million of us including you and me regretting something in life.Rather than focusing in present,we always think about what has been happened.Some regret thinking….

How if I took job A instead of job B?

How if I met him/her earlier in my life?

How if I realized earlier the love I feel now?

How if I appreciate him/her earlier?

How if I tell earlier how exactly I am feeling?

How if I followed my dreams?

There will be endless ‘how if’ in our life.But we are tend to forget that there is no rewind button in life.We can’t go back to past and change what has happened.Sometime I do wonder,how if there is a time machine where I can go back to past and make a brand new decision?It will be really amazing.But there is a huge difference between real life and fantasy.Accepting the fact that there is no such machine in the world where we can go back to the past is the smartest decision that all of us can do.So why we are wasting our precious moments in the present by regretting what has been already happened?Why we should waste our energy,time,and focus by thinking the past?

I always believed we can’t go back and start a brand new beginning.But we can always start now and make a brand new ending.A ending which you will never regret in the future.A ending which make you happy and satisfied.So let us stop regretting what has been happened and live right in the moments.Let’s create magnificent painting of our life without any regret.

Cheers!

Maintaining Individuality in Love

Love often start with a beautiful node.Two people with a different style,attitude,and nature get attracted with each other and eventually fell for each other.But what make us to attracted to someone?To fell in love with someone?I’m sure there is plenty of reason.Maybe we like their sense of humor,their self-believe,confidence,calmness and the list goes on.We get attracted to someone and eventually fell in love with them because we find them unique.We find them different then all other people we met before.We started to like their uniqueness and individual characteristic.

But in the middle of the journey,we realized, “he is not the same person I used to love” or “She change ready.She is a different person now.I can’t relate myself with her”.

Why this is happening?

People often compromise or lose their sense of self in a relationship.In a relationship,one partner compromise everything and gives up a significant part of himself or herself to maintain the relationship.Some losing their individuality without realizing it.Why they letting them self to be sabotaged in a relationship? Fear of being alone is the main reason why some individual sacrifice part of their identity to keep the relationship alive.Fear of losing the person they love lead them to loose their own individuality.They have a misconception about love.They tend to believe compromising everything including our own identity is a key to everlasting happiness.

But the truth is,compromising and giving up yourself in a relationship will only be the temporary solution to maintain the relationship.In the long run,though,there is a price to be paid:unhappiness,dissatisfaction,and losing of individuality.How you can be happy if you compromise your own believe and dreams?

Entering a relationship is not only about the attraction and love,but more importantly about your believe,preference,boundaries,and dreams.When you enter into a relationship,it does not mean your life ‘before relationship’ stopped.You need to maintain your friendship,hobby,and interest that you had before you get into the relationship.All this things is your identity.This is who you are.Your unique characteristic and individuality is what attracted your partner.Losing your individuality means,you are going to lose your partner in nearby future. Losing individuality mean you are losing you self respect and dignity.

Reason for people sacrifice their individuality

Fear of being alone

Fear of being dumped or being alone lead people to compromise their value and individuality in a relationship.Sometime we tend to think,

“what if he/she didn’t agree with me?”

“will he/she will be upset if I disagree with them?”

“how if he/she dumped me?”

All this fear lead them to a stage where they compromise their identity and individuality.They prefer to losing their individuality than being alone.But the point is,they failed to realized losing your own individuality will eventually lead the relationship to a breakup stage.

Obsession

Some people tend to be too obsess with their partner.This also lead to self-compromising stage where you will not able to realized you are losing your identity to make the other person happier.You are sacrificing your dreams and expectation to make the other person happy.But the real happiness in a relationship is in where both the partners equally feel important and maintaining their own individuality.

The subtle surrender of self

This is the most common factor why people losing their individuality in a relationship.It is not as if people consciously decide to sacrifice themselves for the relationship. Over time, the integration of two lives take its toll and certain compromise are bound to happen.Example,maybe the husband/wife have to resign their job to take care of their new born baby.One need to give up their career goal while the other one pursuing their goals.This will eventually lead to bitterness at heart.

How to be in love and be happy without losing our own individuality?

The first step toward happiness in a relationship is to be honest with your feeling.Compromising your feeling lead to unhappiness.Be truthful with your feeling.We cant deny the fact that compromise is always necessary in maintaining a healthy relationship.But once you are truthful to your feeling,you will able to know when you can compromise and when you should stand for your believe.

You should learn to communicate rather than compromise.Rather than compromising and being unhappy,you should learn how to confront the issue with your partner to find a solution which can make both party happy.Explain you view and thoughts to your partner and always go for win-win situation.

There is some situation where you can compromise with you partner and make him/her happy without losing your own individuality and vice-versa.

Key for everlasting happiness

We all deserved to be loved and be happy in a relationship.It’s take effort from two people to make a relationship successful.Both should learn to compromise and respect your spouse/partner individuality.Finding the right balance in a relationship is the key for everlasting happiness.

Cheers!

Motivation Quotes

Today's Quotes:

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." -Mahatma Gandhi-

MyThingking :

Strength is an ability to overcome obstacle and challenges.An ability to hold on when thing get tough.The world does not measure the strength of a man by his physical capacity.A true strength of a man come from an indomitable will.A powerful mind and unshakeable self-believe is a real strength of a man.

Cheers!

Motivational Quotes

Today's Quotes:

"We will either find a way or make one." –Hannibal-

MyThingking :

This is one of my all time favorite quote.I came across this quotes when I was 18 years old.Its change my perspective of challenges.What I learned from this quote is,if we had a goal means we should find the way to achieve the goals.It’s not only apply to goals.Its do apply for problems.We have to try our best to find the right solution or way to solve it.If we are not able to find the right solution or there is no existing solution,then we have to create our own solution to that problem.I applied this concept whenever I want to achieve something or solve any problem.The result will be in our favors.Hope this wonderful quote can change someone’s life.

Cheers!

How To Be Happy: Gratitude

 

I’m not happy with my career.

I’m not happy with my financial status.

I’m not happy with my look.

I’m not happy with this situation.

Look familiar?Yes.Most of us will say that.Sometime we  heard our family members or friends complaining that life is not that great,no money,no one is there for them,life getting difficult,and so on.But most of us tend to forget we are in a better position compare to million people out there.There is an Indian proverbs saying, “we will not able to appreciate the importance of something until we lost it”.Be it love or things.Isn’t it so true?

Sometime god give us so many things.But we will still complaining it’s not enough or blaming god.Those who have so little live happily.But those who have everything still struggling to be happy.They still searching for happiness. Will they find it?I’m afraid no.The answer is very simple.Until they learn to be gratitude,they wont be happy with what they have.

What is Gratitude?

Gratitude is a form of acceptance and being thankful with what we have.A key component for happiness is by being grateful.We have to be grateful for everything we have in life.Usually we tend to get hurt when we compare our self with others and feeling jealous.We have to realize something important here.Nobody is better than you and neither you are better than anyone.Everyone is unique.Everyone has their unique talent.When we accept this fact and be grateful for what we have,then happiness will follow us.

A true story:

I like to share a true experience that I came across.Five months ago I was watching evening news at my house.At that point I was emotionally down and not happy with the way my life is shaping up.I feel like nothing is good about my life.The I saw a news about Myanmar attacked by Cyclone Nargis.There was a video playing,hundred of children’s running behind the track which bring food.This children chasing the track from behind and food is thrown from the track.3-4 years children chasing the track and collecting the food thrown to them.Looking at this video itself make me shocked.I never came across such situation.Without my realization I was thanking god for give such a good life.I was thanking god for everything HE gave me.At that point i realized happiness is not in what you don't have.happiness is with always with you.Once your realize to be gratitude,you will find the happiness.

How to be grateful?

1.Keep a gratitude journal.List everything you gratitude for and update your gratitude journal everyday.

2.Begin your day by thanking God for giving a new day.Start your day by thinking of things that you are grateful for.

3.Say thank you to everyone.Practice saying thank you to everyone who help you or doing you a favor.You can say thank you to the waiter at the restaurant where your normally have your lunch or to your office boy.Start with someone and keep the thank you list grow the all day.

4.Keep smile and be thankful when thing goes your way.It’s not only make you feel lighter,it also give significant positive impact to the people around you.

5.Express your gratefulness in word.When someone do you a favor,tell them you are grateful and appreciate what they doing to you.Nothing is more powerful than a word from a genuine heart.

In conclusion

Be grateful for everything that you have.Be grateful for everything that happen in your life.By being grateful you are giving yourself a chance to be happier.

Cheers!

Motivation Quotes

Today's Quotes:

"If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page" -Mark Houlahan-

MyThingking :

I believe everybody in this earth is responsible for their destiny.They are the person who control their life.We will decide how our future will look like,what car we will be driving in 5 years time,what kind of house we will have and so on.We are the creator of our life.I believe every single day is an opportunity for us to getting close to our dreams.But we have to make sure we give what it take to achieve all those dreams.Planning a day ahead and executing those plans everyday will eventually lead you to your dreams.

Cheers!