Disappointment

Everyone in the world is hoping for the best.We want to get all that we desire.Everyone is chasing something and want to hold it in their hand.We want….

our love to be replied…..

to get promotion…..

to score good grade in exam…..

to have a wonderful family…..

to win the game…..

to be rich…..

to be appreciated……

If we ask the people around us to list down what they want in life;I'm very sure there will be no full stop for the list.Sometime we tend to set high expectation from the people we love or our own self.It’s just not possible every single things in the world work in our favor.So when thing doesn't work in our favor,we tend to get disappointed.

What is disappointment?

Disappointment is a feeling of dissatisfaction that follow after we fail to meet our own expectation.You will be disappointed if you can’t get the expected result or things doesn’t work as your way.

How disappointment affecting your life and others?

Disappointment often lead to stress and anxiety.When you disappointed,you feel hurt.When your expectation failed to manifest,you will be disappointed.This disappointment tend to destroy your belief and self confidence.This is because,you will immediately start to think you are not that good and starting find you weakness.You will blame yourself for not meeting your expectation or goals.Some even hurt them self if they disappointed.

Disappointment in relationship will affect your trust and integrity.Most of the marriage failed because he/she not able to fulfill their spouse expectation.We enter the marriage world with full of expectation,looking for Mr or Miss Perfect.When our spouse failed to fulfill our expectation,we tend to get hurt and disappointed.This lead to stress in a relationship and eventually ended in breakup.

Normally people tend to do something stupid when disappointed.Mostly people tend to engage in activities to divert their mind from disappointment.But some people tend to go for extreme level to cure their disappointment.This often happened in love.This group of people can become extreme if there don't get the person they love.They willing to kidnap or physically abusing people to show their disappointment.Sometime things can get worst than this.

How to overcome disappointment?

The ‘law of life’ is,things won’t always work in our favor.Sometime we will be disappointed.But we should learn from the disappointment and move forward.We should find a way to cure the disappointment and pursue happiness.

Robert Kiyosaki once said “The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way”.

Here are some ideas I have that might help you to walk through the time of disappointment.I hope you find them useful.

1.Calm down.Stop and calm down.Give yourself some time.Shift your attention from the thing that disappoint you.Things might not seem nearly to bad tomorrow.

2.Talk to your friends or family.If you are unhappy with your friends or family members,talk with them about it.Confront the problem.Use the proper word to explain your disappointment.Sometime it’s just a misunderstanding or misinterpretation.Maybe they won’t aware they has been hurt you or they did it unintentionally.By having a talk with your dearest people you can avoid your disappointment.Definitely they will seek for your forgiveness if they hurt you.What can be a better cure for a disappointed heart than a sincere apology from the one who disappointed us?

3.Expect less & give more.Don’t expect too much from the people you love.We all human and nobody is perfect.So accept people as who there are and give your best to them.The law is “what you give is what you get back”.Once you stop expecting too much from people,there will be no room for disappointment.BUT…BUT…..there is no life without expectation.So we have to learn to set right kind of expectation for our self and others.By setting the right kind of expectation you will find happiness and satisfaction.The real joy of life is giving and not receiving.Give your best to yourself and to others without expecting anything in return.That's the path of eternal happiness.

4.Surrender to god.In life,we may not always get what we want,we may not always get what we need but we get what we deserved because god always give us what is best for us.Learn to give your best in everything you do including your relationship.Leave the result to the god.

5.Learn from the experience.Think what you can learn from the experience.Find a way to do it better next time.Take disappointment as an opportunity to improve yourself.Believe that you can learn something from the disappointment and use it to create a new future.

5.Meditation.Do meditation every day.Meditation will help you to be more calm and focus.Meditation definitely a good medicine during the time of disappointment.It will help you to clear the anxiety and make you feel more relaxed.

6.Move on.You was disappointed.True.But what is the point to keep thinking the same thing over and over again.It’s not going to change anything.Your life is not going to end at the point where you disappointed.Accepting the disappointment with an open heart and moving forward in the life is the best thing you can do to cure your disappointed heart.Life is full of opportunity and happiness.It’s in your hand to grab it or not.

Hope this article can help the reader to handle disappointment in an effective way and help them find happiness in their life.

Cheers !